Frustrated I am (says the Yoda in me.)
Some of my kids have SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder.) SPD is a condition in which your senses can't process properly so sounds, smells, textures, sights, are distorted to where they are either heightened- lessened- or both. One out of every 20 kids has it! My oldest son's main issues are with food. The smells make him feel sick, the texture annoys him, sounds of people eating make him ill. It is very upsetting at mealtime. He won't eat practically anything at school so when he comes home he's famished. The hardest part is he knows it's irrational but just can't help it.
I must admit. I have it too. I can remember getting so grossed out (at everyone) for smacking when they ate when I was a kid, and I still do honestly. One time, when I was 8 and at my first sleepover at a friend's house, I woke up to find my host family so excited that they had made blueberry pancakes with maple syrup! (I detest the smell of blueberry pancakes AND maple syrup.) I ran out of the room and vomited. I couldn't help it. I still can't stand the smell.
At dinner we have battles sometimes. Mainly stemming from "But I can't stand that. Why did you make THAT?" Then the other kids might chime in and start a chorus of whining that drives me insane.
So I'm trying something that I hope helps. I bought a cheap whiteboard calendar with a nice frame. Last night I had the kids help me "plan" the meals. We wrote the meals on the board and I'll hang it prominently in the kitchen for all to see. Hope now if issues arise with any kid I can say "But my dear, you planned the meals, I didn't."
Wish me luck.
If you have time please learn more about SPD. Here is a great place to start.